Live, Rest, and Recenter

It is Okay to Rest

Dear Leader,

I seen you work hard. I see your perseverance and how steadfast you been. I seen you carry the weight of leadership, all the joys and struggles. You have been carrying it with grace and integrity. Your efforts are not in vain. Every centimeter of it is progress.

I know sometimes there are days where life gives you the biggest middle finger. Those days where the load seems unbearable, you continued to pick up the things that were dropped. Sometimes you lost your patience, but that is okay because you examined what went wrong and how to handle it better next time. You led with integrity and character. That is all the call of leadership asks of you.

You have been very busy, but now is time to rest. A burnt out leader is a leader with no influence, no impact.

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San Rafael Park- Reno, NV

So rest. Take care of your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health. Take a step away from the routines and deadlines. Break away from schedules and find some time for yourself. This is not selfish, this is healthy and essential if you want to live a culture of serve, build, lead, and live.

Step away from the crowd and find a place for you to recenter. Do something that relaxes you and lets you reflect. An afternoon walk, reading in the park, photography, music, writing, whatever you need to reexamine yourself. Be led to a place that gets you out of your element. Be led to a place where you are able to hear yourself think.

Have purpose for your rest.

Sometimes we get so busy in the schedules we forget that we have an ability to be aware, and to remember our values or even who we are. The things that are most important to us, the values that fuel our walk as leaders can adrift in the midst of the process. But that is alright. There is hope. The things lost in translation are to be found again in your rest. Sometimes even coming back with a stronger essence.

What do you need to find again? What do you want to find again?

When you are rested, your leadership will come back strong, energized, and more determined than before. Don’t be afraid to rest. Leader, it is okay to rest.



Another Leader


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Live in Relationship (Connection)

Be Connected and Stay Connected

What do you think of when the word “relationship” is said? Do you think of couples and significant others? Do you think of professional or personal relations? Or do you think of friendship connections; lasting connections?

In a fast-paced world where instant gratification and cutting ties with individuals is emphasized, independence can be taken to extremes. The definition of relationship or friendship can be seen as fragile. Though it is good to be independent, too much of a good thing can become unhealthy. Too much independence can cause this thinking that you have to handle it on your own and asking for help is a sign of weakness. This thinking is a fictitious.   

The lone wolf cannot survive an ambush.

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Washoe Valley Bonfire- Jared L.

Relationship means connection or friendship. And connection means a person who aids another in achieving goals. Relationships are meant for building. Building trust. Building openness. Building a place where individuals feel emotionally taken care of. A place of “You have burdens? How can I help you carry your load? How can I help you unload?” Relationships are to build bridges.

In healthy connecting relationships you are able to be an individual with your own foundation of values. You are able to disagree and still be genuine with each other. You do not have to always have to be surrounded by them to feel connected. You are able to step away from your friends and be your own person.

Leaders do not form cliques. They manifest connections with freedom.

Living in relationship means living in the connections of the individuals that you surround yourself around, near and far. There is an African proverb that speaks of “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”. As leaders we have to understand that if we choose to go alone, we are going to overlook aspects of substance and details. But if we choose to go far, it is because of a connection that holds us. Leaders may bend, but they will not break if there are other leaders on their side, speaking into their lives with encouragement or mentorship.

Do you live in a relationship perspective? Do you stay connected?


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Live & Travel

Good Leaders Go to the Unknown.

Do you travel? Do you travel for the pictures and posts? Or do you travel for the experience and culture? Are you a tourist or a traveler?


Airplane Island View- Maui, HI

On a trip to Maui, I remember watching the horizon of whales and the shore where the sea turtles rested. Knowing whales have a migration pattern throughout the year. I noticed how even at a large size moving slowly, whales took their time but made great progress across the waves. Not worrying or having a care in the world if they would make it to the Hawaiian islands on time, but traveling thousands of miles at their slow pace.

A slow pace can have great progress.

Taking notice of sea turtles having a daily pattern. At the end of the day, these calm and powerful-jawed creatures rested. The saying in Hawaii is “Don’t turn your back to the ocean.” These creatures brave enough to swim through waters of unknown dangers (sharks) and powerful waves of Hawaii, rested at the edge of the shore, sleepily stared down the ebb and flow.

Do you, Leader, rest after your brave endeavors of leadership?

Every moment brings a learning and teaching experience. Traveling is an exciting and relaxing way to not only grow as a leader, but to live. Sometimes a leader has to step away from the routines, schedules, and deadlines and go to an unknown place. A place that holds uncertainties, both good and bad.

Traveling, when done right and in a healthy manner, has purpose. With traveling, a leader can get out of their element and experience the unknown. It allows room for relaxing growth. It allows a leader to evolve on matters such as cultural awareness, different cultural behaviors, and creates an open perspective.  

As leaders it is healthy not only to serve, build, and lead but to also live. Take a step away from the screen. Be present. Absorb the atmosphere around you and the ambiance it speaks. Breathe fresh air, even if it is a different kind in a different place.

Because a burnt out leader has no influence.


Where do you leaders travel to? And why do you travel? Leave a comment below.

Lead: Out of Vision Not Just Passion

Passion Needs Vision

Were you ever passionate about something, but then the feeling went away? The passion for it died? Maybe a hobby’s excitement fizzled out? Or an idea you had and chased doesn’t look as glamorous and shiny anymore? Maybe the passion is still there but not as livened up as before. Not bouncing off the walls with vitality as it was previously.

Have you ever been to a different place with no sense of direction for this foreign land? Or been on a guided bus tour? On a past trip to Maui, a new adventure awaited with a guided bus tour for the road to Hana. This curvy road brought you into a thriving


Road to Hana- Maui, HI

Hawaiian town untouched by tourist resorts, but flourishing with Hawaii’s natural scenery. The local bus driver, familiar with the route, skillfully drove the bus on the cliff side of Hana roads.

You may have the “want” to get there (passion=gas), but if you don’t have the guidance (vision=local bus driver) to know how to get there, you will be lost and may never find your destination. As leaders it is good to have passion but vision is needed. The call of adventure stirred up a passion, but the visualization of being in Hana was the vision. The vision caused an action, while passion fueled it.

But passion needs guidance and direction.

Passion needs vision.

Passion is just a feeling, an emotion. It may move you on the inside, but alone sometimes it doesn’t translate into outer action. Or maybe it does for a while, but then it later dissolves or turns into a directionless mess. It is vision that calls us to act, to move forward. It is vision that causes us to have guided action about something.

Vision draws us to anticipate the future. It causes us to prepare for the future and gives us a blueprint on how to get there. With vision it is not just passionately picturing yourself but visualizing a future. A future with a foothold of foundation.

The thing about passion and vision is both is needed as a leader. Without passion, a vision cannot function in a thriving matter. Without vision, a passion will not have longevity and be short-fused. You need both to lead.

Vision is the directions, steering wheel, and GPS, while passion is the fuel.

Does your passion have vision? Do you lead out of both?

Truth is you can passionately picture yourself anywhere doing anything. But where do you visualize yourself with solid ground in anticipation for the future?


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Lead: Without Comparison but With Visual Sound

The Comparison Mindset is a Dead Sound

Have you ever observed how someone talks? Or even eavesdrop on another person or group’s conversation?  How did they talk? Was it all about them or about someone else? Did it make you lose a bit of hope for humanity or inspire you? Did it put life into you?


Lombard Street- San Francisco, CA

If you ever lived in a large city you understand that the city carries its own melody. Its own transforming growth.

Call it Visual Sound.  

In large cities, a city is always active. Always moving. Always thriving. Always communicating. If you look around you will see individuals constantly headed somewhere with their schedule in mind. If you listen closely you can hear melody of a city and the rhythm that it brings. A certain engine vibration of a bus coming at a specific time of day. The sound of rush hour traffic filling the street. But in some parts of a city, this melody can be a clashing noise for rundown streets. A noise filled with lack of growth and hardship.

Digital noise surrounds us and can influence our mindset and the way we speak. This digital noise can create a comparison mindset. This noise can choke the melodic sound of your thriving leadership. Having a Comparison Mindset is like hitting the wrong note during a musical recital. It can throw off the entire course of your performance. As leaders we are called to not leave a digital noise but an imprint of Visual Sound. The way we communicate and the way we think becomes Visual Sound.

Visual Sound has influence.

Though competition, measuring efforts, and evaluating those efforts is good within professional reason, a readily comparison mindset can be a danger towards your growing leadership.

Why is the Comparison Mindset unhealthy?

  • Creates Bias– You end up giving a label towards many aspects- people, situations etc. But individuals have layers and every situation calls for different approaches.
  • Creates Discontentment-You will be dissatisfied with every step you make in your growth.
  • Underlooks Growth-Your perspective will be redirected and too focused on what you’re not and rather who you are.
  • Overlooks the Root of Issues– You’re more aimed at the resolve than the root. Weeds that aren’t fully pluck grow back stronger.
  • Creates Insecurity– You should be confident that you are a leader-in-progress, constantly growing.
  • Creates Rushed Building-Some building and development needs small steps and a process. The building of a bridge that is rushed can overlook small details, causing major issues in the long run.

What is your visual sound? Does it have the dead sound of comparison?

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Lead: Out of Humility

Humility is Louder than Bragging

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San Rafael Park- Reno, NV

Have you ever done hands-on labor and gardened? Prepare the soil, by weeding out the bad. Plant a few plants here and there. Cultivate them with fertilizer and ensure growth by regular watering. Uproot dead plants, something that is not functioning. Make sure pests do not kill your growth. You are responsible for your yard and garden. The same goes for leading. We prepare soil (build), but we have to make sure that what is flourishing (leading) out of our garden is not unhealthy junk, but healthy growth.

Nothing is more poisonous than arrogant pride and a place of entitlement that corrupts your thriving leadership. As you grow as a leader it is good to be confident in your skills, but never to the point where arrogance takes over like unhealthy, cocky weeds that choke the growth of healthy plants. When a person governs from a place of entitlement, this space is empty and short lived. It is a place of unfulfillment of meaning and objectifies leadership, making leadership lose its transformational value.

There is a fine line between arrogance and confidence.

When the masses scream out the same familiar noise, what makes an individual set apart from the rest? What makes a leader, not only relatable, but more respected?

Humility is like a breathe of relief in a world that constantly puffs up pride. The role of a narcissistic boss who belittles his employees has already been taken. What is different to individuals, what draws them in and appeals to them is a leader who encourages and empowers others. When individuals experience this in a leader, employees see themselves not apart of a hierarchy but respected and level ground. Individuals see value in this and as a leader you have the role of influencing with positive or negative impact on generations.

Even research agrees.

Humility is not to be used as a manipulation, power tool and there will be few that do not respond to it. Still be genuinely humble anyways, as individuals will recognize the difference between genuine humility and counterfeit humility. Individuals will recognize a strong leader.

Check this out if you’re wondering what ten characteristics make a humble leader.

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Build: Flexibility & Hill Country

Be Always Ready to Adjust and Adapt

Have you ever gone on a hike? Maybe you enjoy forest hikes and how the trees surround you, enclosing and interlocking above. Maybe you prefer the edgy, openness of coastal trails to gaze upon the far ocean horizon to try to see beyond it. Maybe your flat and vast open land is what you appreciate. Or maybe you like the hikes that give you a clear and distant view of the place you live in, giving you a feeling of escape from society.

In a past coastal hike, there was a large hill at the edge of the ocean that visitors were welcomed to trail on. There was two ways to hike to the top. The side where most visitors entered for a gradual and level trail and the trail where a steep incline scared off others. Seeing an elderly couple head towards the steep and edged trail, I followed. Straying back, I watched how this couple climbed the incline with careful ease, taking their time, not in a rush, stopping every once in awhile to admire their progress; as if they knew that the view at the top will still be there for them. While my lungs were trying to adjust to this new altitude, this couple was not afraid of this cliff edged trail, nor of the energy or effort it would take from them.


Muir Beach Trail Head- Marin County, CA

What hike are you on?

Sometimes the hike that you are on has an easy trail of leveled meadows. While other times these easy flatlands can turn into an inclined battle, bringing you into an unmarked trail. Or even have a choice between flat trails and inclined hikes. Though all of these trails have growth surrounding in them, their detours can bring you to a different perspective or even a better destination.  Do you have the flexibility to adjust for hill country, that brings unleveled and uneven ground?

Hill country is always a harder trail but worth every step of its steepness. The thing about hills is do we have the flexibility not only choose, but adjust to them even if you have to gradually and steadily climb up. Just as leadership there is only so much you can do to prepare for it. Your hill can be anything-a choice, a decision, a person, a situation.

As a leader, do you readily adapt to the unexpected when things are off their routine and schedule?


-Are you flexible in situations?– When things don’t go as planned don’t scrap everything. Evaluate things. Adjust and make use with what you have.

-Are you flexible with people?– Accommodate with individuals and their professional and behavioral needs within reason. Don’t try to figure someone out and label them off, just guide and let them grow.

Be flexible. Take the inclined trail.


Leave some comments below on how you practice on being flexible.