Build: The Winds & Waves of Emotional Consistency

Have Self-Awareness


Lover’s Point-Pacific Grove, CA

Have you ever watched waves or wind take its course? The crashing of the waves bopping up and down, ebbing in and out of the shore. Along with the wind pushing the waves here and there. Did you ever notice the part of the day where a high tide comes through or a low tide occurs?

There’s an art to understanding wind and wave patterns. Captains do this to ensure that their ship gets to the correct location in a safe manner.  Recognizing irregularities, constants, and understanding that the waves and winds will bring unpredictable patterns at times is a part of their list of obligations. They analyze the patterns of the coast throughout the season and acknowledge that this art is an aspect that is continually and skillfully built on throughout their lifetime. They take notice of good waves and winds, and the bad

Our emotions at times can be like the waves of a thunderstorm, crashing in every direction. Or a peaceful running river that is consistently steady and flowing. With emotions crashing around, it can make it difficult for individuals to navigate your waters, causing them to “tip-toe” around you. But with emotions that run consistently and steady, your presence as a leader can bring a calming and peaceful effect in an atmosphere that is always busy.

Do you analyze your emotion patterns?

Emotional consistency is having the emotional intelligence to understand your emotions, decipher between the good and bad emotions, and have a healthy emotional response towards something. It is also having the balance of finding the level ground of emotions without extremes of being an emotional wreck or emotionless. Sometimes you even have to ask yourself, will this emotion benefit anyone?

As a captain, how are you navigating through the winds and waves?


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Build: Traffic & Patience

Sit in Traffic. It’s a Good Patience Strengthener.

Horns honking. People yelling. Cars cutting you off. Braking too early or too late. Do you feel the heat of the stress yet? Maybe you even thought of a specific place like California or New York.


Cannery Row- Monterey, CA

What type of person are you when your patience is tested? Do you lash out and get angry? Or do you shut down and harbor it in? Or are you one of the few that it takes a lot to get under your skin?

Frankly, I enjoy traffic and working customer service. I understand that is a weird thing to enjoy and at the top of the list for unusual. But think of traffic or even waiting in line as a patience strengthener. Or better yet have a mindset shift of “how can this patience tester become a patience strengthener?”

Now I’m not saying that you have to take your emotions and shove them down. I am emphasizing to think before you react and respond. Ask yourself, is this aspect you are stressing over worth the loss of character? Just like the Internet, once you put it out there, it is out there forever.

When we start to have this mindset towards trivial things such as traffic, it roots and leads to a healthier response towards major things on an emotional, relational, or professional level. Starting with the small issues prepares you for major obstacles. The journey of being a leader and as a leader always is going to demand more of you along the road. But don’t be scared of that “more” there’s hopeful anticipation and strength within the path of leadership.

Why Practice Patience

  1. There are always difficult people– There will always be individuals that need extra patience from you.
  2. Patience has a ripple effect– It leads into a stronger sense of understanding, strengthens flexibility, and shapes emotional consistency and emotional integrity.
  3. People become a product of their environment– Observation and influence is stronger than we acknowledge.
  4. It teaches us how to serve others better– That cranky customer that you just served and came with their grumpy storm, now has peace in their eyes.

The way a leader responds to patience testers is noticed by surrounding individuals. Are you a leader that not only pushes boundaries but also shows restraint?

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